Tami Keele: Domestic Abuse Survivor

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When we hear the word “October” we immediately think of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, right? Everywhere we go we see pink ribbons and t-shirts with the word “survivor” emblazoned on them.

What few people may realize is that October is also Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Did you know that on average nearly 20 people a minute in the United States become victims of physical violence at the hands of their partner? That is nearly 10 million women and men per year!

1 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men have experienced some type of extensive domestic abuse in their lifetime. Domestic abuse hotlines receive an average of 20,000 phone calls a day. 20,000 calls A DAY! That statistic is incredible.

Here’s one woman’s story

Recently, Michele Borboa with She Knows interviewed a woman who was in an abusive relationship. Tami Keele, a domestic abuse survivor, has even written a book about her experiences entitled Get Out! Save Your Life.

As Michele spoke with Tami, they discussed the notion that most women have when chatting about someone they know who may be in an abusive relationship. From the outside looking in, it’s easy for someone to say, “Well, why don’t you just leave?” If the situation is that bad, just pack your things and hit the road, right? As it turns out, Tami explained that it’s not that simple.

For her, it became a matter of control. Her ex-husband began controlling aspects of her life from finances to what she wore. Shortly thereafter, the controlling behaviors escalated into physical abuse. Tami states, “When the physical abuse started, I was in love and fear of him. He would get me to feel sorry for him after he abused me; it is a form of Stockholm Syndrome. Getting out was hard because he had control of all of our finances, I had no money and no credit cards and nowhere to go.”

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Tami’s situation is not uncommon. Roughly 85% of women who leave an abusive relationship return due to lack of financial standing, mainly because the abuser controlled the finances in the relationship. Tami is a survivor. She was eventually able to flee her abusive ex-husband and rebuild her life in a healthier, more confident way.

If you read stories of survivors of domestic abuse, you will come to realize that there is not one “magic thing” they did in order to find the strength to leave their abusive relationships. For each person, there was a different spark that ignited their desire to break free from the life they had been forced to live. In Tami’s case, it was her faith.

In the article, Tami also speaks about seeking help after leaving her abuser. She shares, “After he was removed from my life, I was on what felt like an emotional high. I was so proud of myself for finally telling someone the truth about my abuse. I wasn’t concerned about the future, just glad to be alive. I also went to therapy for a year as a constant. In therapy I learned that I also suffer from post-traumatic stress syndrome. I took the techniques and strategies from therapy and applied them to my life and began the healing process from extreme trauma and abuse from an abuser.”

Tami’s story is one of strength, courage, and new beginnings. What we need to remember is that these women need our support. We need to come together as a community and help victims of domestic violence regain their confidence…their voice…their light.

Offering someone a place to stay for a while until they get back on their feet can be helpful. Simply being there for a friend and lending a sympathetic ear is also a great way to help. Assisting a friend in finding a job and gaining financial independence can be a big step in the healing process as well.

If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, we want you to know that you are not alone. There are resources out there to help you through this difficult time. You can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

For more on Tami Keele’s story, click on the link HERE.

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Breast Cancer 411

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With October being Breast Cancer Awareness Month, we thought we’d take this opportunity to present a few must-know facts about breast health. Sit back and relax while we give you the 411 on everything breast related.

Breasts, everyone has them. They come in all shapes and sizes and can be the topic of all types of conversations from bra types and bikini’s to breast feeding and augmentation. But there’s one conversation that is shaking our nation more and more these days. That conversation is about breast cancer.

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What You Need to Know About Enterovirus D68

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During the month of September, we are focusing on keeping you up to date on the best ways to stay healthy and promote wellness in your everyday lives.

In our last post we spoke about preventative measures you could take for optimum health. We discussed eating healthy foods, getting enough rest, staying well-hydrated…all great points to consider. But what happens when we work diligently to do all of the right things and we are still faced with an illness that is beyond our control?

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Preventative Measures for Optimal Health

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Pick up any health and wellness magazine in the store and somewhere on the cover you are sure to find a headline mentioning heart disease, diabetes, or cancer. These three diseases are the top 3 killers of women today, so it’s no coincidence people are talking about them.

So what are the best ways to keep from falling victim to one of these deadly diseases? Prevention. Plain and simple. 

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The Cardinal Rule of Back to School: Always Feed Your Kids a Healthy Breakfast

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We’ve all heard the adage: “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day.” I’m here to tell you, it’s not just another catchy bumper sticker. Just as your car can’t run without gas in the tank, your body can’t function properly without food.

Think about it. Generally speaking, if the last thing you ate was dinner the night before and you get your full 8 hours of sleep, that’s 8 whole hours your body has gone without being refueled. Not a big deal when you’re sleeping, because your body processes function much slower and don’t burn as much energy, but when you wake up and become more active…well, that’s a different story.

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